A Note from Shawn Moore, LMSW, Director of Family Support
When my husband attempted suicide in 2017, our family’s world was turned upside down. We quickly realized that recovery is not a solo journey; it is a family journey. After that attempt, he and I had difficult conversations about locking away firearms and creating a safety plan. I became the keeper of the key, both literally and figuratively, as I tried to protect him and our children from a pain that often felt overwhelming.
Sadly, despite all our efforts, my husband died by suicide six months after being told at a VA hospital that he would “just have to live with his suicidality.” That moment revealed a devastating truth: families are too often excluded from the conversation. Clinicians may see veterans for an hour at a time, but it is the spouses, caregivers, and children who live on the front lines every day. My daughters and I carry the ripple effects of that loss—grief that has affected school, relationships, mental health, and even their outlook on the future. We are not better off without him.
This is why I strongly believe in Project Sanctuary's mission. Unlike many organizations, it understands that when one person serves, the whole family benefits—and when one struggles, the entire family is affected. Through therapeutic retreats, ongoing family support, and a focus on mental health, financial stability, and connection, it cares for the entire family unit. This holistic approach is not just innovative; it is desperately needed.
During Suicide Prevention Month, it is crucial to remember that suicide does not occur in isolation. It affects children who may self-harm, spouses who carry trauma, and families whose lives are forever changed. Prevention must involve the family, as they are partners in safety, healing, and resilience.
Project Sanctuary offers a place where families can heal together, rebuild trust, and rediscover hope. It is a place that reminds veterans they are not a burden, where caregivers are appreciated beyond their roles, and where children understand they are not alone.
Take Action
If you or someone you know is struggling, remember—you are not alone. Support is available now.
- Dial 988 then press 1 to connect with the Veterans Crisis Line.
- Text 838255 to contact a responder
- Or begin a confidential online chat at 988lifeline.org
And if you are ready to take a step toward healing together as a family, learn more about Project Sanctuary’s retreats and programs at www.ProjectSanctuary.us. With the ongoing support of our supporters, we can continue to serve military and veteran families with the family-centered care that saves lives.
